Between the Memorable

Monday, November 15, 2010

The poet... Jack Gilbert wrote that marriage is what happens "between the memorable." He said that we often look back on our marriages years later, perhaps after one spouse has died, and all we can recall are "the vacations, and emergencies" -- the high points and low points. The rest of it blends into a blurry sort of daily sameness. But it is that very blurred sameness, the poet argues, that comprises marriage. Marriage is those two thousand indistinguishable conversations, chatted over two thousand indistinguishable breakfasts, where intimacy turns like a slow wheel. How do you measure the worth of becoming that familiar to somebody -- so utterly well known and so thoroughly ever-present that you become an almost invisible necessity, like air?

-Elizabeth Gilbert


katieballard said...

I love this; thanks for sharing. :)

Jess said...

Just wanted to say that this was one of my favorite weddings to ever attend. Why? Because it was a marriage that challenged my perspectives on marriage and to reconsider if mine were in line with the Bible. Praying God will continue to show you both how to serve each other. Blessings!

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